Miss Kelicious has been a kink educator for decades. If you would like to book any of the following for your group, event or convention, please contact via the contact page, with the titles of the desired workshops. As an advocate of education, fees are quite negotiable.

Many workshop topics are available for your event, either in the kink stream or the Ethical Polyamory stream.

BDSM Basics through Advanced is a Masters level series with three separate levels (100s, 200s and 300s) covering everything from light bedroom play to intense edge play.


Alphabet Soup of Sexuality and Non-Monogamy is a collection of topics from the ABCs of Ethical Non-Monogamy to STIs and ethics of Fluid Bonding. 

Appearance Fees for Conventions are flexible, so email with a pitch and we'll talk!

BDSM Basics through Advanced

Entry Level Topics:

BDSM 101: Kink Basics

BDSM often starts in the world of fantasy… but how do you make it into a reality? This workshop will explore the basics of healthy, happy, consensual BDSM. We’ll talk about ways to create hot and safe kinky experiences, go over basic communication skills and explore ways to build a sexy scene. Then comes the fun part: learning about the psychological and the physical sensations you can play with! We’ll touch on sensory deprivation, restriction (i.e. bondage), scratching, clamping, temperature play and impact play, and brief demonstrations will be given of a number of techniques. Kink can become a huge part of your life or an occasional escapade… come and learn how to take the first step!

BDSM 102: Listen Up- Listening Skills for D/s Dynamics and Effective Negotiation

Have you ever wished you could see straight into your submissive’s soul, and know what makes them tick? Have you ever desired to know exactly how best to please your dominant? Strong communication is the key to harmony in any relationship. That’s no less true for those of us who are drawn to the complexities and delights of power-based relationships, whether ongoing or occasional. And yet, despite the intensity and focus they can involve, sometimes our D/s or M/s dynamics can themselves add a layer of difficulty to the already challenging dance of human interaction.

Here, you’ll learn about a classic listening process (active listening) and how to adapt it to the realities of D/s. From there we’ll dive into practice in small groups. This dynamic workshop is highly participatory, extremely practical, and surprisingly challenging! You’re guaranteed to come out with fresh insights and new skills to help deepen the intimacy and strengthen the bonds of your D/s—whether you’re currently in such a relationship or brushing up for a future one. (Existing D/s pairs or groups are warmly welcomed, but there is no need to attend with a partner.)

BDSM 103: Stepping Into the Scene: Navigating Kinky Sex Communities

Some BDSM workshops teach the basics of kinky play. But let’s say you know whether you’re a top or a bottom (or both!), you’ve figured out which end of the flogger is which, and you get why it’s best to use leather or cloth restraints instead of handcuffs. Now, you want to explore the wide, and sometimes bewildering, world of the public BDSM scene. Where do you start? What does the BDSM scene look like and how can you move through it with grace and confidence?

We’ll go over questions such as…

  • What BDSM events and activities are going on out there?

  • Where do you fit into the existing public scene… and what if you don’t?

  • What’s it like to attend a play party?

  • What are the rules of scene etiquette… and most especially, what are the unspoken ones?

  • How do you approach someone you’d like to play with?

  • What’s the wisest approach for exploring new play skills in a public setting?

  • What pitfalls should you watch out for as you find your way in a new community?

We’ll tailor the discussion to the topics that are most relevant to YOU… so come prepared with your questions! You’ll have the opportunity to ask them out loud, but also to write them down anonymously if you’re shy.

BDSM 105: Setting the Scene

We talk about how to vet, what negotiation means and how to ensure consent is first and foremost. We talk about RACK vs SSC and what the terms mean, as well as how they are misinterpreted and misrepresented. Introducing the CEO of kink and recognizing the role consent has in kink. We also define and explore the “Needs, Needs, Wants Wants” golden rule of play. We then touch on how to physically and mentally prepare for play, and ensuring everyone is able to get what they need from the endeavor.

BDSM 106: Aftercare- more than just first aid

We break our subs down into a quivering puddle of goo, but without putting them back together again, we risk breaking our toys. And nobody wants a broken toy! Here we discuss how to reassure your bottom that they are actually not all the nasty words you just called them. The importance of praise and how to know when Aftercare is complete, as well as those bottoms who need more than just cuddles. We discuss the bottom’s responsibility to communicate aftercare needs and who is actually responsible for providing aftercare.

BDSM 110: The Thinking Kinkster (Or, Knowledge Is Power)

Every year, new knowledge about BDSM and kink is produced and put out into the world. That knowledge comes from a wide range of sources—academia, pop culture and our communities themselves. But what exactly is being said, and how does it impact us as kinksters? This interactive workshop aims to engage people in thinking critically, from a practitioner perspective, about the information that’s being created about us and what it is that we do. It also aims to provide some examples of how to encourage your local communities to think about their kink—from BDSM-focused book clubs to film nights to DIY university-style classes and more. Come share your ideas!

Next Level Topics:

BDSM 204: Impacting Impact Play

If you’ve attended “BDSM 101: Kink Basics” and you’re hungry for more, come have a bite. This workshop is aimed at people who already have some familiarity with the basics of BDSM but want a place to explore a little deeper.

If you’re a kinky person who likes to hit or be hit, this is the workshop for you. Here, we discuss the various families of impact equipment: Whips, floggers, paddles, etc. and basic techniques for each. We talk about how to identify the families so that we can maximize the scene, and get a tour of the wide range of implements you might want to try. We learn about how to hit safely and effectively. Packed with demos and highly interactive, this workshop is guaranteed to give you plenty of exciting ideas for your impact play!

BDSM 207: Sensational Sensations!

If you’ve attended “BDSM 101: Kink Basics” and you’re hungry for more, come have a bite. This workshop is aimed at people who already have some familiarity with the basics of BDSM but want a place to explore a little deeper.

Here we talk about some more technical aspects of what we like to call sensation play. Touching (see what we did there) on sensory dep, wax, fire, smells, sounds, massage, tickling, ice, mummification, and massage. Come with your questions, knowledge and your sexy self to discuss how to do all the fun lil things your heart desires. There will be lots of time for questions and discussion as we ease into a new level of kinky exploration.

BDSM 209: CBT- and not Cognitive Behaviour Therapy!

If you’ve attended “BDSM 101: Kink Basics” and you’re hungry for more, come have a bite. This workshop is aimed at people who already have some familiarity with the basics of BDSM but want a place to explore a little deeper.

The “male” reproductive organs have long been portrayed as hyper sensitive and a dangerous thing to touch, let alone pull, twist and bop! Here we talk about all the ways to restrain, pull, and prod as well as different tools and techniques that can be used to enhance pleasure while bringing that exquisite, sensual pain to your partner in a safe and fun way. As always, hands-on and interactive format with some great, willing victims… er... subs, show us how that line between pleasure and pain can be explored and exploited. Not for the faint of heart.

BDSM 210: Buttsex for Beginners - An Anal Play Workshop

If you’ve attended “BDSM 101: Kink Basics” and you’re hungry for more, come have a bite. This workshop is aimed at people who already have some familiarity with the basics of BDSM but want a place to explore a little deeper.

From the gentlest touch to the deepest penetration, buttholes enjoy it all. But you have to seduce them before they’ll let you in… Come and learn how! We’ll start with the basics of anal play and then slowly, with lots of lube (and discussions for which types of lube), we’ll work up to fun things you can do with fingers, mouths, toys and more! Along the way we’ll touch on anatomy, techniques and safety tips, with a focus on maximizing pleasure for all concerned, givers and receivers alike. All genders welcome… after all, everyone’s got an asshole.

BDSM 212: Finding Your Feet: Foot and Footwear Play

If you’ve attended “BDSM 101: Kink Basics” and you’re hungry for more, come have a bite. This workshop is aimed at people who already have some familiarity with the basics of BDSM but want a place to explore a little deeper.

The graceful arch of a beautifully pedicured foot… the solid weight of an engineer boot on a chest… the dangerous curve of a high-heeled shoe… the scent of leather and polish… the sensual thrill of a tongue sliding along a toe… If any of these images get your motor going, this is the workshop for you! Feet and footwear are classic cornerstones of kink, and the range of pedi-pervy practices and proclivities is remarkably wide. In this workshop we’ll talk about power, pleasure, pain, fetishism, sex, service and more—all of it focused below the knees. Come share stories and ask questions. Assumptions will be creatively challenged and new avenues enthusiastically explored. Expect to come out with lots of exciting ideas for enhancing your play—whether you want to dip your toe in or jump in with both feet!

BDSM 211: Exploring Edge Play

If you’ve attended “BDSM 101: Kink Basics” and you’re hungry for more, come have a bite. This workshop is aimed at people who already have some familiarity with the basics of BDSM but want a place to explore a little deeper.

Here, we’ll explore the allure of edge play – the kinds of physical and psychological play that get hearts pounding and go a bit outside the norm, even for perverts. What types of play are we drawn to, and why? How do we build the practical and emotional skills we need to go there? How do we effectively dance along the line of “what the fuck” and maintain the scene? What risks do we want to take, and how do we assess them and manage them? There will be lots of time for questions and discussion as we ease into a new level of kinky exploration.

BDSM 215: Playing the Body- Creating Erotic Scenes

If you’ve attended “BDSM 101: Kink Basics” and you’re hungry for more, come have a bite. This workshop is aimed at people who already have some familiarity with the basics of BDSM but want a place to explore a little deeper.

What if we were to explore BDSM play… without using a toy bag full of gear or a fully equipped Dungeon? The body itself is an exquisite instrument, and we can all become better players! In this workshop, we’ll talk about ways to tune into your partner during the opening notes of your scenes, look at how different areas of the body hold different emotions, and learn techniques for tapping into those emotions. Then, it’s time to play! We’ll look at fun ways to use your hands, arms, legs, torso, feet, mouth and other body parts to create sensual SM symphonies that can range from gentle to challenging. This is an interactive workshop; you’ll be encouraged to ask questions, share your experiences and contribute your ideas.

Advanced Level Topics:

BDSM 301: You Gotta Lick It- Cunnilingus for the Enthusiastic and the Hesitant

The art of orally pleasuring women, and other sexy individuals with similarly configured genitals, is equal parts skill, mindset and intuition. Brush up on your basic (and more than basic!) anatomy, learn how to think like a consummate cunnilinguist, and then let’s talk technique! From safer sex to squirting and from tongue piercings to toe-lingus, we’ll cover the full spectrum of licking-related lore, with plenty of fun anecdotes and even some informal survey results to spice up the session. Guaranteed to boost your confidence, build your repertoire and banish your fears.

BDSM 302: Wonderfully Wicked Wax

Building on the basics of Sensation Play, we take a deeper dive into the wonders of wax. Whether you sensually drip soy wax on your loving partner and rub it all over, drip the sizzling dark candle along the small of their back before scraping it off with the sharpest knife, or viciously dip his dangling bits in paraffin before flogging it off, we talk about techniques and choices in all aspects of Wax Play. This is a very hands-on discussion, so wear something wax friendly - or nothing at all.

BDSM 303: Flogging with Flair

Floggers look really sexy, but how do you use those things, anyway? Whether you’re turned on by dominance and submission or you simply think you’d like the feeling of administering or receiving a solid sensual beating, flogging might be for you. In this workshop, we’ll take a hands-on approach: why you might like to flog or be flogged, how to aim a flogger (and all the delicious places to aim at), the many ways to use a flogger, and best of all, what it feels like! We’ll also cover ways to pick a flogger you’ll like, how to care for, clean, and store a flogger, and a few interesting tricks and tips help you find your personal style. Bring your own flogger if you have one..

BDSM 304: The Dance of D/s- Cultivating Dominant and Submissive Body Language

A dominant / submissive dynamic can be a beautiful thing to experience and to watch. The flow of power between two or more people is a lot like a dance – in fact, specific physical motions and positions can lend D/s much of its flavour and beauty. This class will explore the use of body language and protocol to reinforce your dominant/submissive dynamic, focusing on grace, subtlety, confidence and attentiveness for both dominants and submissives. There will be lots of ideas to get you started on developing your own smooth dance of power. Areas we’ll cover include opening doors / walking through, kneeling / receiving kneeling, handing something over to be taken / gracefully taking, assistance with dressing and undressing, walking, sitting, waiting, voice, touch, sex and play. Great for couples and groups; solo participants are welcome.

BDSM 305: The Ultimate Thud

(Special Guest Presenter)

What could be more visceral, intimate, thrilling, and hard-hitting than fists meeting flesh? Come and find out how to put some punch into your playing! In this workshop, you’ll learn how to create a scene using punching, slapping, kneeing and kicking techniques. We’ll be covering safety concerns and anatomy, positions and equipment, hitting styles, pacing, warm-up and cool-down, psychological approaches, creative ideas, and more. This workshop is hands-on and interactive. Some knowledge of SM will be helpful but beginners are welcome as well.

BDSM 306: Bonkers for Bondage

For some, just the bondage aspect alone is enough to build a scene. Whether you are securing your prey for a beating or just tucking them away until you want to use them again, we discuss ways to immobilized, the psychology of securement, and how to integrate long term bondage techniques with your own play. Sensory dep chambers, stockades, or shrink wrap, all have good and bad and we discuss how to choose which technique is best for you.

BDSM 307:Take Five- The Pleasures of Fisting

It may seem extreme, but fisting – inserting an entire hand into a welcoming vagina or anus – is, in fact, one of the most intimate and sensual kinds of penetration two people can enjoy. This workshop covers anatomy, techniques and safety tips, with a focus on maximizing pleasure for all concerned, givers and receivers alike. Anyone who loves the idea is welcome to come, whether they have tried it or not.

BDSM 308: Sensual Torture

So many sensations, so much to torture! We talk about how to effectively mitigate risks in more advanced Sensory Deprivation, aspects of deprivations and why this is intriguing. We logically move into sensory enhancement, and how to effectively incorporate sensation torture in play. Moving on to tickle-torture and how to setup and monitor a tickle torture scene, complete with an interactive demo. We top this off with breast bondage and beating, how to hit, where to hit, what the risks are and how to minimize them. We look at which tools are best for breast and why.

BDSM 309: Strapping It On

These days, everyone can have a dick of their own – or two, or three! But how do you pick one, and what do you do with it once you’ve got it? Come learn how to choose a cock and harness that best suit your body and your purposes. Then we’ll dive into the nitty-gritty of where you can stick it and how to enjoy it – givers and receivers alike. We’ll cover packing (everyday cock-wearing) as well as playing with a variety of techniques and orifices, with a focus on pleasure and safety.

BDSM 310: Hot and Heavy: Playing with Fire

Fire play smacks of danger… which means that to some of us, they’re extra-sexy. In this workshop, you’ll find out how to play with the high of risk-taking while keeping real danger to a minimum. We’ll go over the full range of basic safety concerns and set out all the equipment you need. We’ll also discuss scene planning, emergency care, and why this stuff is so appealing in the first place! Demos will be provided and you’ll get to try out play under supervision. Fire is not as scary as you think… except when it is.

BDSM 312: Multiple Players, Multiple Layers

Open any BDSM-101 book and you’ll find all sorts of advice on how to enjoy a satisfying scene with your sweetheart. But what happens when you’ve got more than one sweetheart, or you’d like to try playing with several people at once? The dynamics can become awfully complex, awfully quickly! Whether you’re dealing with a once-in-a-lifetime chance to submit to half a dozen demanding dominants or the ongoing challenges of a multiple-partner kinky relationship, the inherent complexity can be a major challenge… and can also make for one helluva thrilling experience. Come and discover the principles of managing a multiple-player scene, including tips about power dynamics and safety concerns, and enjoy some creative exercises to get your juices flowing. You’ll come out with a long list of ways to satisfy multiple desires! This is great for subs and Dom/mes alike!

BDSM 315: Metal Meets Skin- The Basics of Play Piercing

(Special Guest Presenter)

A heart beating fast in anticipation, laced with a tinge of fear. Cool alcohol on warm flesh. A brief sharp sensation, and another. Slim metal has pierced skin, and everything changes.

Needle play is seen as edgy, and with good reason. It breaks the protective membrane that separates us from the world around us. But if you’re well informed, you can minimize the risk and maximize the pleasure! In this workshop, we’ll go over the full range of basic safety concerns and set out all the equipment you need. We’ll also discuss scene planning, emergency care, and why piercing play is so appealing in the first place! Demos will be provided and you’ll get to try out some piercing under supervision on an eggplant and, if time permits, on yourself or a trusting friend.

Alphabet Soup of Sexuality and Non-Monogamy

These topics have been adapted from Miss K's written presentations for LA Dom Con, as presented by Thizbee Sez
ABCs of Happy Non-Monogamy

So you’d like to be romantically involved with more than one person at once? Or maybe you’d just like to sleep with someone other than your one-and-only? Whether you’re considering your first steps into non-monogamy or you’re an old hand looking for a fresh perspective, you’ll find valuable tidbits in this common-sense approach to enjoying love and sex in the plural.  We discuss terminology like “Swingers” and “Poly”, “hierarchy” and “relationship anarchy”, with advantages and disadvantages of self-labeling or choosing a niche. This is an interactive discussion with lots of room for beginners and experienced poly folk alike to share their questions and experiences.

Let’s talk about Sexuality: What It Is, What It Isn’t, What It Could Be!

What about people who call themselves “queer,” “omnisexual” and “pansexual”? This is an interactive workshop exploring pansexual, asexual, bisexual, heterosexual… all the sexuals (X-sexual). Whether you are comfortable, curious or just have no clue what this all means, this is the place to be! What is sexuality? How do X-sexuals manage their relationships? How does the world respond to X-sexual? What kind of concerns might a X-sexual person need to deal with, and what kind of joys can X-sexual bring with it? How can you be supportive of a friend or lover who might be X-sexual? We’ll talk about all of this and more in a safe atmosphere of respect and openness.

STIs and Fluid Bonding

The ever-awkward conversations and how to navigate them. We discuss here how to talk to partners, how to protect yourself, and what happens when something slips in the circle. We discuss what exactly “fluid bonded” means and how it can be abused or misinterpreted, as well as the various types of barriers and levels of barriered play along with risks of each “degree”. C'mon, let's talk about sex!!

The Logistics of Non-Monogamy

We know that non-monogamy is hot and sweet and wonderful. But sometimes it also comes with some headaches, such as, say… scheduling! Part lecture, part skillshare, part guided discussion, this workshop addresses the question of how to be considerate, efficient and sensitive about your time management in poly situations. We’ll start with some basic concepts – consideration, respect, prioritization, generosity and communication. Then we’ll tackle specific questions such as different relationship structures, living situations and power dynamics. And last, we’ll discuss the three big Ss: scheduling, space and sex. There are no one-size-fits all solutions, but if we all put our heads together, perhaps we’ll come up with some that will work for you!

Power in the Plural: D/s and Non-Monogamy

Not only are you interested in consensual power exchange, but now you wanna do it with more than one person at once? Just how much of a masochist are you? Okay, all kidding aside, dominant/submissive relationships and non-monogamy can both be avenues for intense intimate connection, amazing sex, and deep self-awareness. And both have plenty of potential for disaster—uh, that is, personal growth opportunities—along the way. Let’s talk about what happens when you put the two together and stir. This won’t be group therapy, but we’ll definitely tailor the discussion to the needs of the people who show up, so come prepared to share.

Effective Listening

Active listening is a technique frequently employed by peer support groups, hotline listening services and other support-oriented groups. It is a highly effective approach to support and listening work that’s centred on guiding a client through their own process in a non-judgemental way. Here we discuss the steps of the active listening approach, get practical tips for applying them, figure out where your own roadblocks lie, and experience numerous guided practice exercises with a peer review process to help you get comfortable with your new skills. We also discuss the Mindfull Approach to relationships and communication.

Lessons in Non-Monogamy: What Have We Learned So Far?

These days, there’s a ton of non-monogamy information out in the world—you can read up in lots of places about the basics of opening up an existing relationship, navigating the first pangs of jealousy, and figuring out how to colour-code your calendar. But when you’ve been doing non-monogamy for a while, you may have hit upon some challenges they don’t cover in the intro manuals. Relationships shift and end, configurations take on new shapes and sizes, living situations evolve, sexual desire waxes and wanes, new people show up in the mix. In navigating your own poly waters, what mistakes have you made along the way? What would you do differently if you could start over? What lessons have you learned? What wisdom can you share? Where do you need to challenge yourself to grow some more? What support do you need going forward? Come enjoy some thought-provoking exercises and facilitated discussion to assess where you’re at and get some ideas of where to go next. Newbies are welcome, but the discussion will be geared to those who have a couple years’ experience under their belts.